Before I fall asleep at night, my brain likes to remind me of all my past inequities.

That stupid thing I did ten years ago…
The dumb comment I made as a teenager…
A bad decision as a kid…
The head shaking moments during college/university…

They all come back to haunt me in one form or another, pelting me with regret. Even though time has evaporated those moments into a blip of the cosmic memory, they still exist as a present pain.

It’s impossible to just ‘move on’ from those moments in life when we’re still holding on to them. They lock us in a prison cell of emotion, which then surface in other ways. The grip on these moments need to be released and that can only be done when there’s a willingness to forgive.

Forgive yourself.

It’s simple, but not easy.

It must be learned and it must be practiced.

Then, it might be possible to forgive others as well.