Giving advice to others isn’t always about the other person. A big part of it is a way for you to see something inside yourself.

When a person is seeking guidance, you can only help them insofar as your own experience and the outcome you would want in their situation. There’s a lot of projection happening because of how you perceive the situation and how you would handle it.

There’s nothing wrong with offering, especially when someone asks, and it can actually be a great way to remind yourself of the things you need to do. In many ways, giving advice to others is really giving advice to yourself.

Where both of you can benefit is when the person is seeking feedback you hadn’t considered. It forces you to look at a situation from a different angle and stretches your mind to new places.

Just don’t be frustrated when the person doesn’t take to your advice right away. It’s more of an a-ha moment for you while they’re just trying to figure it out.